Lazarus and Brandi have been together for fifteen years. They live in Ohio, USA, and have three children together. For the past ten years, they have been practicing “domestic discipline”. In the old days, there was talk of “Christian discipline” and according to it, men were to slap their wives and punish them. The couple is discussed in a new episode of Truly.
“Housing is a dynamic between two adults who have both agreed, one party is dominant and the other party is submissive,” says Brandi, adding that the controlling person, who in this case Lazarus, sets the rules. for the subordinate, who is she. If Brandi breaks the rules, there will be consequences.
“The penalties are different, it depends on what rule has been broken. The punishments can be flogging, writing the same sentence many times, sitting in a corner, and a very strict lecture, “says Lazarus.
But Brandi not only has to follow the rules of the home that Lazarus decides, but she also has to take care of the home. She is in charge of finishing, cleaning, and cooking, unless it is barbecue food.
It was Brandi who came up with the idea for their lifestyle. “I always saw the book ‘Spank Your Spouse, Avoid Divorce,’ and ended up reading it. A lot of it made sense, so I decided to show it to him, “she says.
Lazarus says that at first, he found this embarrassing and uncomfortable.
The couple says that their lifestyle hurts many who say it is violence. Asked why they do not consider this to be violence, Brandi says:
“We do not see this as violence because, firstly, it is with the consent of both of us, and secondly, it was my idea and I had to convince him to do it.”
She says that “housing” is different from BDSM in that there is always some pleasure in BDSM, either people enjoy being slapped or slapped others. “But I do not like being slapped and he does not enjoy slapping me,” she says.
Brandi says that they are “happier than we have ever been and that we get along better than many couples we know. I think we could not be without the “housekeeper”. It might surprise you how many people support this lifestyle. ”
The children know everything
Lazarus and Brandi have three children together.
“Our children know almost everything about ‘house history’. More than the people who write negative articles about him, “says Brandi.
Their thirteen-year-old daughter says she would not want to be in such a relationship in the future. “It would not suit me personally,” she says.